“Worry affects the circulation, the heart, the glands, the whole nervous system. I have never known a man who died from overwork, but many who died from doubt.” – Charles H. Mayo
We all have it; stress. It may come and go, and the reasons are as varied as are the individuals who experience it. It can be a killer.
Sometimes it takes the more innocuous form of a worry. At times it can be an annoyance. Other times it is an inconvenience or a bother. It can come from our own set of standards or from an outside source. Family, friends, work, or just life in general.
We know it when it occurs as it usually is a visceral response. Our body signals us. We can have headaches, a tight throat, a welling up of anger or any other series of bodily reactions.
When we FEEL it, we are able to respond. How we respond is usually in proportion to the threat we feel.
It is fascinating that the stress we place on things is exactly the reason we feel STRESS. It is a double-edged sword, so to speak.
What ‘matters’ to us affects us when any of that is challenged or lost.
Of course there are the actual physical things that normally can occur; body changes, accidents, property damage, and so on. Then there are the emotional relationship aspects that cause us bad feelings. The main one is loss of a spouse. The second most troubling thing in life is said to be a major move of your home.
If we put it in perspective you might think about the fact that dinosaurs were wiped out over 60 million years ago by an asteroid in the Gulf of Mexico, it is believed. The gases released went around this earth and killed off all but the really strong.
Being strong will help. What do we mean by that?
Basically it is being able to withstand the vicissitudes of life. By experiencing things that go wrong and not succumbing we can learn to go on and survive. It can even make us better in other areas as a result. The ‘strong’ often have professions to help the weaker.
Many people attempt to treat themselves to lessen or rid the stress. There is a huge problem with alcohol, drugs, anger, and even suicide. People hurt, and they try anything to alleviate that horrible feeling. Today there are any number of stresses in just daily life.
The individual tolerance level varies, and the reactions follow.
If children learn that parents solve their problems and frustrations, they do not learn to handle stress.
Much of life is routine and quite frankly, boring. But when things are not the way you want them, or things happen out of the blue stress enters. There are in fact people who like stress and look for it or cause it as that makes them feel alive.
It is better than having no feeling for them.
The real stress that causes the ultimate of this feeling I believe, comes from the ending or fear of ending in a romantic, love relationship. There is no emotional pain like that. You feel dead and may wish or actually cause your death. It happens more than we might like to believe.
Many murders occur around this fact. It’s the If I can’t have you no one can.
Look at what ticks people off and how they handle it. Many times, it focuses on the lack of control over a situation or person. We don’t like that feeling. However true love demands just that.
It can be what appears to be minor offenses. He didn’t call. She looked at me funny. Something I don’t like was said. He or she reacted in a manner that I don’t appreciate. You name it; it happens. The best way to deal with any stress is to share it and that will lighten the burden. Having a caring ear and soothing response will help. Find it!!
“When I look back on all these worries I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which never happened.” – Winston Churchill
What stress do you have? How do you handle it? Does that work for you?